Thank you Harrison! Grateful for your comments and observation : ) - and
yes it would be an interesting way to do it, to bring in a representative
for the humiliation.
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On 15 September 2014 14:16, Harrison Snow teambuilder@xxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I would put in a rep for the fathers trauma which generated so much
humiliation.
The son can look at the rep and tell the father that he
sees the source of his pain ..... However it is not his to carry
for his father...he is the child and the father is the parent.
The son may even hand back that burden of pain and humiliation
he has been carrying for his father to him.
He could also say to his father " he was just a child and I did not
understand."
Best Regards
Harrison Snow
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On Sep 13, 2014, at 6:12 PM, "liz.sleeper@xxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk]" <
ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
At a workshop i ran yesterday, a client, after a long difficult piece of
work, was finally able to experience some small and clearly much yearned
for eye contact with the very disconnected and deoresessed representative
of his father, a man who at the age of 9 had been thrown out of home and
had had to fend for himself from that age. when it came to the point that
the father could start to see his son, (the client), the client, with tears
in his eyes reported to me that he found his fathers gaze humiliating.
given humiliation makes one contract and not take in an experience. I would
be interested to hear the groups take on what could have been done to help
the client feel something more empowering. on reflection i wonder if his
father had been given words along the lines of " it takes great courage to
recognise your souls longings, and to see you allowing this fills me with
pride" i wld be interested in the groups thoughts with love Liz
