Hi Chris
You bring up some really interesting topics of our work! I feel invited to
share some of my own experiences with you.
What I notice in my workshops and also in those of other colleagues, is that
during the workshop a lot of inner work happens, also with people who dont
work at that time. So I guess that this preparation helps them (those who
wait till the end with asking for some work) to come to their real issue
more easily when it is their turn to look at it. They might even need only
the finishing touch for their process to get going again, and often this
even happens without a constellation. All previous constellations have given
them enough insight to deal with their own situation. My own experience at
workshops of Bert Hellinger is that being in the field that he holds all the
time gave me more than a constellation could have done at that moment. So
maybe this is also one aspect of why the work speeds up at the end of the
workshop. I always start my workshop with a round in which I give almost for
every one a little impulse to look into a direction or at a person who is
not mentioned in their question or issue. I call that the so called
pre-washing phase of the work, it can soak for a while so that the washing
process afterwards is easier and more effective. And it has a good effect on
the work that we do later on.
If you speak of a pitfall, the one that is most often happening for me is
that I want to help or want a constellation to happen or want something to
happen or find a solution for the client. But then I sit back and realise
that it is the clients choice when and if to work with me. And in my
experience the danger of doing just a little bit too much is far bigger that
doing too little. After all it is the great life forces that do the real
work and I only open the window to invite them in to help us.
About the constellation that you described: if I have a hunch of who is not
yet seen I use the constellation for testing this. And at the same time the
image becomes more complete for the client and it shows in this case what
the effect of the brother and his father have on the system of the client.
Indeed this can go very quickly. I think I would start with setting up the
child (=client), the father and the mother and see if the dynamic (the anger
of the child) is visible. Then I would mention what we can all observe and
say something about the systemic logic of it. And then I would test my
hypothesis by adding the first love of the mother and later the brother to
the constellation and see what the effect is on the client and on the
constellation. I always use as little words as possible so that the image
stays an image and doesnt turn into a story.
With kind regards
Margreet Mossel
The Netherlands
www.opstellingen.com <http://www.opstellingen.com/>
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[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] Namens Chris Walsh
Verzonden: zaterdag 11 november 2006 12:36
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Hi all,
I have noticed for some time that the senior German constellators are able
to move through their constellations faster towards the end of workshops. I
was never quite clear how they did it. I figured some of it was do to their
ability to harness the increasing cohesion of the group as the workshop
progressed.
In my last workshop I felt the need to attempt this with my last
constellation as time was running short. First I flagged the short time
available with the client and the group and warned that I may stop the
constellation short of a resolution when I felt some movement had occurred.
In this way I tried to manage expectations & may also have primed the group
to be more focussed.
I felt a strong connection to the field in the interview. So instead of my
usual strategy of setting up the minimum number of representatives and
waiting to see where the energy went, I set up the relevant people from the
client's nuclear family plus the father's former lover and the forgotten
child (half brother of the client) right from the start. This was where I
felt the relevant entanglement was. ( The constellation confirmed this) I
then requested much less verbal feedback from the representatives and relied
much more on their nonverbals which I could observe. I commented on these to
make my work transparent. What was potentially a complicated and long
constellation reached a good resolution in about 35 minutes without feeling
rushed. I was very pleasantly surprised.
I am aware that working in this way could have a number of pitfalls, for
example narrowing your attention too soon. I am curious what experiences -
positive and negative - people have had in working in this way. I am hoping
feedback will help me to build on this experience in a positive way.
hasta la vista
Chris Walsh
Melbourne, Australia
My Website: www.cwalsh.com.au
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