Hello Robert and others,
In training once I had the experience of being asked to bow. Watching from the
inside I grew an awareness of just how resistant I was to this action. My body
mind felt huge, inflexible and protective in front of my mother. Nevertheless I
continued the bow. I have to say that this experience was full of personal
power ready to recognise itself as being out of order. Without the guidance to
bow I never would have felt this. It was the beginning of a shrinking
Sadhana...........lol.........but took its own time and happened in its own
way. This acknowledgement of resistance was both beautiful, powerful and
necessary for further ripening that enabled the dropping of the fruit of the
ego. So I have to say Robert that resistance is a part of the healing condition
that facilitates much of growth. The idea that we can humble resistance takes
away the dignity and integrity of resistance itself in the growth process. I
think at the most we can invite a bow and
yes wait for it to fall on its own, in its own way and its own time. My
experience is that resistance is what humbles us. In fact I think there is an
order at work here in transformation process. If we don't look to our own
hearts perhaps we are following or being carried by a survival pattern of
resistance that actually has its own intelligence and timely movement.
Sometimes trusting that and moving with that.....with awareness.....is all
that's needed to grow.
Kind regards Sadhana
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From: Robert Grant <erebees@xxxxxxxxx>
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Sunday, May 5, 2013 9:09 AM
Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] “when Clients have a resistance to Bowing”
Dear Friends,
I always find the subtle implications significant. To me resistance implies
pressure. In my observation under truly healing conditions energy seems to
flow rather effortlessly. If there is resistance maybe healing conditions
have not yet been facilitated. In some less than happy experiences of
constellation work I have witnessed facilitators pressuring clients to bow
– in the name of the greater good healing god.
Humbling resistant clients quickly carries the danger of putting an agenda
ahead of the clients reality. Do we really need to humble resistance? Can’t
we wait for it to fall away on its own? If we don’t look into our own
hearts what are we?
Best wishes to all,
Robert
On Sun, May 5, 2013 at 3:35 AM, gary stuart <Gary@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
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Great BOWING Thread….
I find many times when Clients have a resistance to Bowing (too Big) that
they SIT DOWN is a Chair in front of their Family System or Parent… Their
BODY knows its order and humbleness just in Sitting LOWER than their
Ancestors or Parents… Worst case you can have the resistant Client Stand
behind their Rep in a Chair sitting and Bowing for them as their Soul will
get it and the Body knows ORDER LOVE and HARMONY without the Ego fighting
against Inner Peace…
1 new concept I use in a situation is let the Client Be their Mother..
Facing their own Rep or grandmother facing their Mother… AMAZING how fast
they GET IT then…. We are all extensions of them and to be in their shoes
humbles resistant clients quickly. At the very least they own the part of
them that is the others. Hence a deeper compassion and understating arises
at lightning speed….
Namaste, Gary Stuart LA, CA
<http://www.chifield.com/> www.chifield.com
3A%20Honoring%20%28bowing%29%20in%20Judaism> "Robert Grant"
Dear Adrian and All,
As many of us will know bowing is a powerful ritual with powerful healing
property – when used correctly. It can also be a strong re-traumatising,
abusive and harmful event if used as an instruction by an authoritarian
facilitator. We need to be sensitive to the feeling dynamics in clients and
representatives alike. However what we need to be most aware of is our own
feelings as we conduct a constellation.
At the verge of a genuine reconciliation moment when the players are truly,
truly ready and only their lack of familiarity with bowing stops them, I
may suggest as a possibility to experiment with bowing – if it feels right
for them.
Best wishes to all,
Robert
