Annie and all,
I know it is a sticky situation and this seems like a good way to work. I
might suggest that the transformation of the Perpetrator energy will have a
very powerful effect on the person and system too. I know after that energy is
neutralized healing happens as it is unstuck so it can finally heal.
Always remember most perpetrators were victims first....so it is a yin
yang... The LATE Dee Yoh (I miss her) led a Constellation for me in Austria of
Inner Perpetrator/Inner Victim.. it was very powerful. It really showed my
generational male dynamic of being Better then the Father/last generation not
respecting those who came before. AND the internal battle over
it....Neutralizing these energies internally is good don't forget some of the
abuse is a way to show loyalty even a hidden superiority to the perpetrator....
that too has to be neutralized for healing... The righteous ones become
perpetrators as well...even if they were victims fist.. hence the CYCLE that
repeats into eternity....It really is about unifying Duality... Both have their
place....
I had a very profound experience guided by the greater field last Sat. at my
weekly workshop.... we dealt with a Violent father to be brutalizing his
girlfriend while pregnant with his child... Sure she was the victim and he was
the perpetrator.. but her act of aborting too was perpetrator energy.. they
BOTH killed or hurt something they loved... making them equal.. she no better
then him and he no better than her... NOW it is complete...
After this I was Drawn to have us all BOW to the greater force of
Perpetrators on earth and in our lives... then to the victims as well. A NEW
idea popped into my head to finish it by Bowing to the LOVE and LIGHT that
included BOTH unconditional love of the brightest knowledge... This made us ALL
feel that Perpetrator/ Victim were immature small children fighting at recess
in a schoolyard... this light paled those seemingly BIG forces...
WE ALL learned much in its presence.
Namaste Gary Stuart www.chifield.com and Gary@xxxxxxxxxxxx
--- In ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, Kay Needham
<familyconstellationinfo@...> wrote:
Hello Anni and all,
Anni thankyou for sharing this case with us. I have been meditating on this
for a few days and am touched by your involvement here. I agree that the
intention of any healer serves the client best when the "individuals holistic
personhood" is seen and respected. The representation of
1. the physical
2. the mental
3. the emotional
4. the spiritualÂ
is, I feel definately the way to go. I observe that the focus of many healing
intentions, is support and a loving environment for healing. I would like to
add another dimension that actually underpins the healing of all trauma, Â
and that is the dimension of awareness or detatched observation.
We cannot change what happened but we can help our clients to detach from the
trauma. That is to seperate or attain distance from it. In the gaining of
distance we are able to gain perspective, recollect ourself totally, and move
forward, leaving the trauma behind. Love is good however detachment is the
only way out.
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To be able to observe that:
I am not the body
I am not the mind
I am not this emotion............is helpful.
To give our clients an experience of "I am the witness", of all of
this.....................is to help them know the dignity of "detatched
observation"..........separation is a natural consequence of this.
Witnessing via meditative awareness utilizing detactched observation enters
into a field of non-duality or no polarity. So does the field of love and
ancesteral support that you describe. All healing happens here. Of course the
facilitator is only able to orchestrate these fields when being in a state of
detatched observation oneself.
Kind regards
Sadhana
From: anni <annimukkala@...>
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Thursday, September 15, 2011 8:17 AM
Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Re: epigenetics and trauma: And what can we do
to aleviate this?????
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Hello to all, I have had several private conversations in addition to the
posts here and I want to thank each of you who have taken the time to offer
both your personal support and ideas in this particular circumstance.
I often work systemically with the individual's holistic personhood. By this
I mean that I set up constellation that show representations for the various
aspects of the individual such as the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual,
etc. With this in mind, I then work through each of these aspects to allow
solution to manifest. I have begun to work with my client in this style of
work but only at an extremely gentle and intuitive level. The emotional and
physical aspects of the trauma seem to be the first things I am supporting.
I have used the healing touch of gentle Reiki with her to calm and ease the
trauma response. This has so far proven beneficial to her.
Some have suggested many other simple and supportive actions I will try to
provide and implement.
I am thinking that I may hold a constellation setting where we do not look at
victim-perpetrator energy but allow healing energies to be represented in the
circle. My thought is that if we hold representation for healing love and
joy as well as representation for ancestors who are able to support this
family then perhaps the "whole" will embrace the father, mother and baby in
an ocean of safety and wellness. My intention in holding the circle would
not be to heal the perpetrator-victim dynamic but rather to offer this baby a
safe and gentle protective field. Has anyone done this kind of
constellation?
I always work with the intention of my service to be the landscape of love.
I work to loving solutions to issues and I believe that love can heal. Not
to do anything here, for me, in this situation would be to deny my own
opportunity to allow love to become more real in this family. So, I move
forward and continue to ask you all to hold the manifestation of healing love
in your thoughts for a moment as you might read this. Already some have
offered support by prayers to the ancestors. I believe this to be a strong
and effective action.
I am doing this work pro bono, of course, and last night another family
trauma developed in this family system. May my speaking here of this, be of
benefit, sustenance and unity.
Thank you to all who have read these posts. You are offering support just by
your presence. Thanks. Hoping to talk more to more of you. Anni
--- In ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, "anni" <annimukkala@> wrote:
This is an interesting article and points to the problems we see as we work
in the family systems. The trauma of a pregnant woman may shift the
epigenetics of her child with which she is pregnant. My goal always in
doing constellations is to find the love oriented solution that might offer
hope and change. To find the problem, of course, is only diagnostic in
nature.
Having said this, I still would like some input on the current client with
whom I am working and who is 6 plus months pregnant. Since my client had a
recent and severe trauma, there is a possibility
that the child she is pregnant with may be affected. Is there, then, any
solution that we can offer her for this possibility? I will be working
with her to deal with the trauma response she is having and will later look
at family systemic issues, but for now, my prime concern is exactly how to
offer her and the baby with which she is pregnant some way of altering the
severity of what the child may be inheriting. Hmmm? Can we do this? Are
we allowed? Is this any different than treating an illness when it is at an
extremely early stage of development? What are some specifics that may
alter the outcome so this baby is not born with difficulties from this
trauma? If we can work with trauma years after it occurs, how do we work
trauma in a pregnancy in the immediate aftermath of the trauma?
Anni
--- In ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, "Gail A" <gail_m_allen@> wrote:
Posting a link to a recent study involving children born soon after 9/11
and looking at inherited stress.
http://www.genomeweb.com//node/978919
We see this inheritance regularly in Constellations - it's grounding to
see the research that confirms it.
Gail
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