Daniel,
to clarify: mother said: what if I had asked my son to do it for me - it
meaning: see his father and/or mother, sister, the grandfather and uncle he was
identified with and all the other things I tried to get through to him, which
didn't work because he was "gone".
----- Original Message -----
From: Daniel Booth Cohen
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Monday, March 22, 2004 9:35 AM
Subject: RE: [ConstellationTalk]
Diane - I'm not clear who is who in the sentence, "what if I had asked him to
do it for me?" Nor is it clear to me what "it" represents. Without
understanding who is asking the son and what they are asking of him, my general
response is that if the client emails the next day with a question that begins,
"What if." the response you offered is exactly correct.
Dan
-----Original Message-----
From: DIANE YANKELEVITZ [mailto:dianeyankelevitz@xxxxxxxxxxx] ;
Sent: Monday, March 22, 2004 10:48 AM
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk]
I had an experience at my last constellation workshop I'd like to share. A
woman came in about her adult son, who I felt was hopeless, and that proved
true. So I asked her what she wanted for herself, and did a piece on her
lineage which was quite powerful. Then turned to her son. He was definitely
gone. His life was broken and in pieces - he said over and over. So we left it
there after I couldn't get anywhere with him. (In fact he is in prison.) The
next day she e-mailed and asked - what if I had asked him to do it for me? I
thought about it and the only answer that came to me is - accept what is.
Then I went to a seminar with my teacher, Heinz Stark, who confirmed that I
did the right thing by leaving it. Sometimes just seeing things as they really
are is what's needed for the soul. All we can do as constellators is bring
light to the situation - show what is.
Two weeks later the client e-mailed again and said that's what her therapist
had been trying to tell her and told her again, she can't do anything for her
son, and this time she accepted it. (I didn't know she was seeing a therapist.)
Diane
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