Thanks Anita and thanks Chris Joseph
Enneapsychodramatics
Dr.Joseph M. Pirone 2018033080
On Sunday, January 20, 2008, at 04:02PM, "Anita Roy" <anitaroy@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear all
(a litte long posting, but I hope you read it)
I have read all the postings with great interest and appreciation for all
the points of view expressed, especially those expressed after some
reflection. I also appreciate that many have expressed their own possible
subjectivity and vulnerability.
As a student of FC, and a long time participant of many Yahoogroups, and the
current moderator of many, and as someone who often has been the devil's
advocate and/or court jester, the bane of a moderator's existence, I would
like express myself again:
We are a system on this yahoogroup, we are not a family, distinctly
different, but there are overlapping truisms, given the nature of our common
interest, namely Systemic Constellations. No one is trying to parent anyone
from what I can see. No analogy is perfect. We are trying to set
comfortable boundaries, ideally one that includes everyone in some fashion.
Feeling safe is a joint responsibility of the seemingly vulnerable and the
seemingly predatorial. Boundary setting is something we all try to do
daily, and sometimes it's called parenting.
As a yahoogroup moderator, I *reiterate* that Mellett can be a member whose
postings are moderated. It is technically very simple. Chris says it didn't
work for some unknown reason in the past, but since I moderate many groups,
I know that it is easy to try again. I say a moderated membership keeps
everyone safe and included. The member can always leave if that doesn't work
for them. Chris can then forward the unpublished email to a few volunteers
for a second opinion to see if it's a go - if he doesn't want to make the
decision himself. Or he can make some other volunteers co-moderators, if he
is willing. I respectfully do not see his decision to exclude as reasonable
one given that there are alternate mechanisms.
However, if there is no group will to do so, it won't happen.
I am not personally affected by Mellett's postings, I see them as clever,
funny, and seething with anger, but they are insulting and too irreverent
for many, and therefore they can be moderated. He hasn't brought me into his
narratives, and perhaps I would feel differently if he did. I can't say. But
even if he did, I would still recommend a muzzling moderation of his
postings, while keeping him a member.
Polls and policy making are time consuming to define and run and
unenforceable due to differences in interpretation of what is acceptable. I
certainly would not volunteer for such a task.
I have taken the time to communicate personally and briefly with Chris
Walsh, Tom Mellett, and a few others. Rather than exclude, I think it
behooves us to communicate and express our own boundaries on this group,
such as we are, but with Mellett present as a member. If that is parenting,
then I am willing to do it. It really doesn't take a whole lot of time. I
use my parenting as an example only because it grounds my opinions in
experience. I could use FC, yahoogroup or other life experiences, it all
comes to the same issues of communication and system dynamics.
I learn a lot from this group, not only when there are FC academic
discussions, but also from the dynamics within it, which are unique given
that the nature of the topic. It informs my understanding of someone's
academic opinion when I also see the person's personal reaction in a group.
Thanks to Chris Walsh for having created this group and being willing to
moderate it.
Sincerely
Anita Roy
Canada
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