Dear Sadhana,
You show great loyalty to Hellinger when you imply that he knows what is good
for the client's transformation, despite the taste that may be left in the
mouth of the client.
A therapist or a guru has a tremendous amount of power over those who come for
help. With great power differential comes great responsibility.
Like my clients, when I look for therapy, I want to feel safe and respected. My
ancestry, like many, includes traumas where people did not have this option.
While I have found that some of the most painful things in my life have taught
me the most, I find that I prefer a gentle touch more than I do a flaming sword
from on high. Perhaps it is because I have such a respect for the bitter taste
of my own spiritual and intellectual arrogance.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama once was asked if he could kill a man. He said,
'Yes. But, I prefer to err on the side of compassion.'
May we all be blessed by finding our own paths.
Thomas
On Feb 14, 2012, at 3:30 AM, Kay Needham wrote:
Hello Judy,
I like your comment "In the meantime I require 100 % of myself". I feel this
is the most important aspect regarding the future of this work. To be
authentic 100%, to know thyself. You know, this is the only qualification
that is able to carry this work, once the basic workings of conscience are
understood. The transformational air of this work remains just
that.......air......its power and work happens in an "atmosphere", a magnetic
field of conscience resonance, a field. You see it in Hellingers
trainings.........no formal, nor intellectually driven understandings here.
Something else is happening here, life is happening, beyond the mind, spirit
mind is happening. A magnetism, a resonance, sychronocity, being drawn
beyond the self, in spite of the self, in an "atmosphere" of spirit meeting
mind. That is effective, transformational, life changing. As others here have
insinuated, each facilitator is capable of creating such a powerful field,
atmosphere, via their very own transformation and life
affirmitiveness........... and earnt strength.
The issue of cruelty that has also crossed these pages in the past few weeks
mirrors the idealistic realm of good conscience, otherwise it is not cruel.
Reflecting upon life and nature itself, is there any cruelty? An eagle
devours a rabbit, a lion kills a
deer...........feeding..........living......dying.....paying with
life....taking for strength......I suspect cruelty is a product of human mind
and its perceptions. What appears cruel to the mind today, could be the pain
of an inner seed cracking. A small or large crack that facilitates growth
when the time and atmosphere is right. Some choose to walk around cracked for
lifetimes........others can bloom in an instant. These interpretations of
Hellingers cruelty "feed" something else here that is not about preserving
life. Neither is Hellingers "cruelty" in those moments about preserving. It
is about destroying, something that is interferring with a movement towards
life. ..........that is real
preservation.....no protection needed.
Kind regards
Sadhana
