It is also a question whether one considers it ethical to work with folks
who are unlikely to get much this-worldly out of this work. "Proof of the
pudding."
I have become skeptical in questioning whether the good vibes of a
beautiful constellation sometimes reinforce the client's problems by
enacting too much of a spiritual fantasy to shield from the pains of
everyday existence.
all the best
Heiki
On Sun, Mar 25, 2018 at 12:32 PM, Laure Porché laure.porche@xxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I feel compelled to point out that some people will just not respond to
constellation, and that though their soul might be getting something out of
it, it would be getting much more with a modality that resonated with their
unconscious structure. That's ok, and it's also ok to recognize that and
say so without taking away from the person's experience. I find it a good
idea for facilitators to have a grasp of many different modalities (by
experiencing them themselves) so we can refer people elsewhere if we feel
they would benefit more.
Blessings!
Laure
On Sun, Mar 25, 2018, 00:57 OSCAR WESTRA VAN HOLTHE
oscar@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@
yahoogroups.com> wrote:
Hi all,
I have a question. It feels somehow a bit vulnerable to share, but it is
important to me, as I want the work to be inclusive for all...
The issue:
I've had three people (of the many I see) in the last year who did not
get the concept of constellations while doing it at an event of mine.
Initial thoughts:
Some initial observations about the people who did not seem to grasp the
intensity of the work that (almost) everyone experiences:
(1) they did not feel the "role/place"-representation; they could not
imagine someone else to represent their XYZ ["Stand-ins cannot possibly be
my XYZ, right?"]
(2) they were not able to look beyond the "here and now" and link their
pasts with the image that unfolds ["I don't get why stand-in XYZ does old
behavior, it's different now!"]
(3) they were all not in touch with their body, rather living from their
head or living out scripts from others or from society but in no way from
their core selves and identity,
(4) they seemed new to awareness practices like constellations, and
perhaps even unwilling to let go of control and unable to "look at"
themselves from a third perspective,
(5) they seemed unknowingly living with re-traumatizing defense and
survival mechanisms; caught in an eternal split, not knowing who they are
and what they/others do...
So what?
So far I've found our constellations practice very connecting across many
different kinds of people, yet, this seems to be "a thing" where I either
get with my feet on the ground with regards to the limits of
constellations, and need to accept it's not for all of us at just
anytime...or...what? Anybody else had similar experiences so far?
It seems to me an important topic as I so wish this work to be inclusive
for everyone, and these very rare cases intrigue me...
Thanks for sharing any insights / advice / opinions / similar experiences!
Would love to hear from fellow colleagues.
Love, peace, and happiness,
Oscar
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