What is the client's formulated intent?
best regards
Heiki Eesmaa
On Mon, Jul 7, 2014 at 3:03 PM, daniela.terrile@xxxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear all
I have a question on a mother issue, and I ask your kind advice on how to
better treat my client
My client (woman) has spent the first 2 years of her childhood far from
mammy (in Iran) because mother wanted to finish studies and had no time for
her. Family (mother and father and daughter were living in Belgium (Europe)
This was an accidental birth and the mother decided (against the wish of
her husband) to send the child back to Iran to her grand parents
Once back to Belgian (where the family used to live) the child had a
normal life, 2 more sisters in the family were born.
At the age of 12 mother started to become depressive and the young girl
was involved in the family life (helping 2 sisters, preparing cooking and
managing the house).
At the age of 16 mother told the child that she had 'fun' with her father,
like they were in a couple, and the mother was very allusive to the fact
that the young daughter was the new 'partner' of her husband and that she
had stolen her place (as if she was his wife)
This was not true of course, and my client was responsible and felt
obliged to take care of the 2 sisters and of the house because she was the
elder
The couple split and got divorce sooner after
Father came back to Iran, and daughter is now married (26) to a young
Iranian man: both are happily living in BXL. Daughter has a wonderful
relationship with her father and once a year she is going to visit him in
Iran
We have done 1 constellation in a group, and it was clear that
relationship between daughter and mother is not good. My client is hating
her mother, and she cannot bear her life's style. She is screaming all the
time, yelling to her and they have nothing in common.
How to start the reconciliation movement? How to feel where the energy is?
Can you pls advice?
Thank you
Daniela
Daniela.terrile@xxxxxxxxx
