Dear Alison and all,
I have just re-read your original post for this thread, Alison. What strikes
me is that you speak about events that involve forgiveness yet the accounts you
share are based on apologies, not on forgiveness although that is a
consequence.
For me, this is in line with the idea that we must first acknowledge that for
which we are responsible. Then from that a kind of reconciliation is possible.
Neither of your examples begin with forgiveness. They begin with someone
acknowledging their role.
One of the difficulties that can arise in constellations in general, is that
someone may find their role to be the solution. No one is ever the solution.
We are only small increments of acknowledging what is. There is a chance one
who chooses to do constellations too often can think of themselves as the
solution or a facilitator in some cases may even think themselves as a
solution. We are not the solution.
The solution is the flow of love through all things once again. This is gift.
Hugs, love to you all, Anni
