Hi Hania,
You describe exactly my feeling; as a "mostly non-active" observer I
see here much supports, sometime very ornate expressed, but I'm
missing (from time to time) the real discussion that could be also
critical and controversial. Yes, I'm not very active in CT so it is
also my fault. But firstly English is not my language (and so I agree
with Wilfried in his remark about the "hidden" censorship the
language) and than, subjectively, from my point of view many postings
are too much thankful but the content is missing. Or, maybe, it is
hidden behind the "nice expressions".
In my "Men-Seminars" I often observe that the group has a tendency to
celebrate itself, with nice and refined formulations and elegant
phrases. But this keeps the group from having the real contact to
itself, which is, often, not "nice". This also creats a group
protection against the critical self-reflection. I than use to say
(only in the "rough" men groups): Please, stop the self-blessing. Then
the space for deep questions may start to open.
Here, in Czech Republic, we have one big problem within the
"constellator scene" nobody is critical to others. Only the
"outside" critics are present unfortunately providing mostly the
sort of critic, which is not useful (because of wholly missing the
point). I thing, the main danger for CT is not an occasionally
occurring "bad boy" amongst of the discussion partners. It is not the
spam or the "hurting" contributors, it is the glorifying that we
produced by ourselves. And it is the perfection of this forum that
protects the "un-perfects" (like me) to write some posts. Maybe this
is one of the reason there are mostly contributions from
Anglo-American and -Australian facilitators but practically none from
outside of this space.
Cordially
Jan Bily, Prague
