So I'll get straight to the point (and I purposefully mean this to be
provocative and conducive to further discussion):
If Hellinger had been all sweetness and light, coupled with his brilliance and
insight -- if he had been accepted the world over, given the Nobel Peace
Prize or whatever -- how many facilitators would have stood up and said
"No, I disagree with you and am going to follow my own path"?
I'm not saying all this divisiveness was on purpose, but let's look at the
effects on the entire field of constellation work: many, many people feel free
enough to disagree with Hellinger, to develop their own findings and
methods, and that has immeasurably enriched the practice of this work.
Hell, if you want to, you can take a workshop from someone who does Reiki
and constellation work, then from someone who does constellations in
organizations, then past lives, then nature constellations, then...and then...
And very facilitator has their own perspective on certain issues -- even if
that perspective "contradicts" Hellinger's.
And what is the end result of all this? This work will not die with
Hellinger. Nor (in my opinion) will it lose its way -- because EVERY way is
its way. There are so many facilitators the world over who have taken the
initiative to develop their own methods, to make their own contributions to
the field, that this momentum that has been generated won't be easily
stopped. And since, for many facilitators (I imagine), that crisis of
identity -- who am I as a facilitator who is no longer a student of Hellinger?
-- has already passed, many people will not need to go through it when
Hellinger passes on.
And, as with everything, this freedom, this momentum, has come with a price
-- heavier for some than for others.
The question, then, is: do we need to bring unity to this diversity? Or is it
enough to give people many options?
Another question: can we take this divisiveness (and here I'm partially
referring to the fact that people who have studied with Hellinger are not
always looked well on by others) and transform it into respect? Is it
possible for us to look upon other facilitators who do the work in an entirely
different way and respect that? Does the entire world need to conform to
my vision of constellation work?
