Yes, if you read just the sentences it does sound harsh, and I understand your
compassion for the teenage mother. Yet I believe the essence of what Bert is
saying is, if you side with the mother (allowing her to be the victim) where
does that leave the child? If you do that it puts the burden on the child to
forgive the parent. I have done constellations on adoption where the birth
mother feels much relief facing the responsibility of her choice.
Bert says one of the reasons he was reluctant to write books is when printed,
people often react to it as a fact or solution for every constellation.
Ginny Vinson
