Hello Community!
Thanks for this lively thread, sparked by Dan's provocative message (some
might even say offensive - you know, offensive like trigonometry ;-)
As many have said before on this group, facilitation is an art. How we turn
that art into a vocation that brings home the bacon and serves all who
could be healed and moved by this work is the question before many of us
right now. I think it is especially daunting for anyone for whom
"Constellation Facilitator" is their calling, but who have no other
credentials that can bring clients to the door.
With that in mind, Dan's "statistics" do indeed sound depressing. But I
guess that's the point: how do we grow the field (dare I call it the
"market")? And what needs to be changed/adjusted to do this? Does it have
anything to do with how facilitators are trained? (Shout out to all the
trainers, BTW: I honor you all!)
I consider myself one of those facilitators Kenn described: my official
training is limited, but I am growing ever more confident in this work and
in my ability to apply the skills I've gained from training and from other
areas of my life.
However, when I attended my first groups, and later offered to lead groups
for my friends, I found myself confronted by some of the issues Dan named -
most importantly, once I find a person ready and willing (after I get
through the tongue-tied explanation of what I do), how could I offer this
work without a group on hand? What will it take to get a group together,
etc, etc. Is a Constellation even as good if there are no other live
representatives to work with?
The answer to this problem has been in part my learning/experimenting with
individual constellations. And obviously, doing individual constellations
is common practice for many. But FOR ME, it meant that I had to teach
myself something that I, personally, had not (yet) seen in training groups.
I also came to constellation work through a different path: I heard about
it, learned as much as I could online, then became my own guinea pig. I
started integrating "Constellation" practices into my other spiritual
practices. And as I grew more confident, I set up a family issue at home
and moved through it on my own.
I used Hellinger's insights as lamps in the darkness, testing them out to
see if they resonated for the field - that's what I learned to do on my
own, and it was later reinforced in the workshop trainings I attended.
I also have a friend with whom I meet with regularly, and after a nice
heart-to-heart check in, we play in the Field. This connects to a
suggestion someone made in an earlier post about having local, free,
support gatherings.
I love what Luis (and google translator) said:
"Take your resources and focus to enter into the mysteries.
They are more than sufficient. Each has its. And all together, focused on
it, we ALL we need."
The trick for me was giving myself permission to do just that!
May you be well,
Alison
www.alisonfornes.com
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