Alison,
While I have seen a number of constellations stopped, I've only had
to stop a few in my own practice. Once it was simply a matter of the
client apparently not generating a field—offering nothing to work
with. It was confusing, but it seemed appropriate to simply express
that there was no energy to work with and move on to another client.
The same client came back later - after acknowledging some blocks to
resolving her issue, and had a good outcome.
The most common reasons for stopping a constellation seem to be lack
of ancestral support/permission; unconscious blocking on the part of
the client; deep, impenetrable family trance; and, a sort of tape
loop where the field refuses to move beyond a certain point. However,
since I am fortunate enough to work with my wife, we are generally
able to pass the role of facilitator back and forth, which often
bring a different perspective which can allow us to continue. We have
several time "threatened" to stop the constellation, for some of the
reasons mentioned above, which seemed to generate movement that
allowed the constellation to resolve. It almost seems as if the
ancestors and other elements of the constellation are listening and
responding in the field.
Fascinating topic. Thanks for starting the conversation.
namaste,
Kenn Day
www.soulsolutionshome.com
On Jun 11, 2007, at 10:00 PM, Alison Rose Levy wrote:
Hi!
I’d love to hear from any of you who have had to “stop” a constellation
either because it felt as though there was no permission from the family, or
because the set-up seemed somehow compromised. I would love to know both
your criteria for doing that, as well as your view of what is occurring at
those times.
This happened to me for the first time (after facilitating for a number of
years) at a workshop yesterday.
The problem presented described a deeply divided and suffering family, with
some kind of painful secret, yet the constellation set up by the client
presented what appeared more like a “staged” picture of “one big happy
family,” that was very incongruent with the information shared in the
interview. All representatives reported feeling “okay” where they were. No
one experienced anything else. There was an overall shallowness of affect.
The only tell-tale aspects were that in a workshop with a number of women
participants young and old, the client selected as a representative for her
thirty-something daughter, (the youngest of the family’s children)— the
oldest woman in the room. Also for the designated “symptom bearer” the
client selected a participant new to constellations who all throughout the
workshop consistently reported that he experienced no feelings whatsoever
when he represented. Thus he provided no entrée into the experience of that
particular key family member.
The set up featured all the children as satellites orbiting around the
central dyad of the parental relationship which indicated that all the
family energy was directed towards supporting that. However, the client,
when questioned, reported a happy marriage with no former partners nor any
known entanglements that would lead to marital disharmony.
I ended the constellation because the set-up felt incongruent, and I found
no opening with the representatives. I said that I had no permission to work
with the system and I asked the client to contemplate who was at risk if the
status quo continues.
After the fact, it occurred to me that perhaps I might have moved the
children out of orbit and into new positions— to see what happened. But in
the moment, it felt as though any movement would be an imposition onto a
system organized to conceal rather than reveal the secret.
Comments?
Alison
Alison Rose Levy
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