Dear Zaquie,
No. I must say categorically no. As a competent facilitator you cannot be
cruel – ever. However as a competent facilitator you may need to support
your client to face cruelty in his/her world or in himself/herself.
Perhaps more important however, is to face that cruelty in ourselves.
Kind regards,
Robert
On Wed, Feb 8, 2012 at 11:05 PM, Zaquie Meredith <zaquie@xxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
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Here is my opinion:
I believe you can help a person who asks your help in 2 ways: you can be
gentle and supportive and
create a container of love where they can bathe themselves and feel better
and understand their pain .
This will involve them in a crust of love that will make them feel better
if
not about the issue
but about themselves.
But sometimes you need to be "cruel"because that¹s exactly what it is
needed. And this , in turn, might make the client
stronger because he realizes he needs to get out of this dark place by
himself only. Nobody to help.
Nobody to save him. He has to face his truthŠwhich is also cruelŠthis might
make him hit bottom. It shakes them.
However if it is clear that that¹s whats needed. You don't do it for
granted.
I am a healer trained in the States and a facilitator in constellations and
I practice both depending on
what I perceive they need from me at that moment. They keep getting better.
And so do I.
Zaquie C Meredith
Www.zaquie.com
S.Paulo, Brazil
From: <anngwyn@xxxxxxx>
Reply-To: <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Date: Wed, 8 Feb 2012 16:41:25 -0500 (EST)
To: <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Subject: [ConstellationTalk] rape
Hello Dan.
Yes, I have seen this cruelty, as well, and also have withdrawn . I
cannot accept that cruelty is an essential element of insight and
truth...however brilliant. There are many other ways to work with painful
material that
upholds a respect for the client's dignity, at all times. In trauma work,
clients are already feeling dis-empowered and we don't want to do anything
to overwhelm and already overwhelmed person. What healing value has
brilliant cruelty if the client shuts down out of fear or shame and
withdraws and
likely has been re-traumatized?
all for now...
Anngwyn
_http://anngwyn.wisrville.org_ ;(http://anngwyn.wisrville.org)
_www.acst-international.com_ (http://www.acst-international.com)
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