Hi Dan,
Dan Booth Cohen wrote:
A former client asked me a question which I am passing along to the group.I take it as 10 days
He is in his late 30s, living in a remote small city in the Great Plains area of the northwestern United States. His mother was married with 5 children when she became pregnant after a one-night stand with an interstate truck driver. She concealed the pregnancy and gave him up for adoption at birth. We did a Constellation about 2 years ago, which was very intense. He reports it had a strong and positive impact on him.
About 10 years
ago he obtained the name of his mother through the adoption agency and telephoned her. They spoke for a while. The mother never saw his father again and knows nothing of his whereabouts. She was apologetic and asked him not to contact her again.more likely even one or the other of their offspring
He asked me whether he should accept his mother's request to have no further contact.
I sat with the question overnight. My response was to ask him a series of questions: What will you do when you read her obituary in the local newspaper? Do you go to the funeral? After she dies, can you respectfully contact your siblings? If yes, must you wait until she dies before doing so?
I do not have good answers for these questions. One concern is that to the siblings, he is the excluded one. It would not surprise me if one of them is suffering on his behalf.
Can anyone share your reflections on the systemic relationship between these half-siblings? What is a good course of action in these situations?
I will share your responses with this man.
Thanks again for all...
Dan
