Show up and choose to be present. Check
Pay attention to what has heart and meaning. Check.
Speak the truth without blame or judgment. Check.
Be open to outcome, not attached to outcome. Not so sure about this one.
Someone (me) needs to speak up for facilitating with a strong intention.
I recently did a Constellation for a woman whose encounter with Bert
Hellinger several years ago is documented in print. He works with her in
his typical style. She describes it as a negative experience which still
haunts her today. In speaking the truth without blame or judgment, he
overwhelmed her nervous system and ability to integrate the images revealed.
She reports to me that she is often overcome by a nearly paralyzing anxiety.
As I work with her, I am aware that I have an intention, even a
determination to leave her feeling supported and relieved. My intention is
that her encounter with me is experienced as positive for both of us. I do
my utmost to ease her anxiety in a way that she can hold long term. I also
have an intention not to enter into a therapeutic relationship, to give her
everything available from me in this one session.
Bert, I think, would ascribe this to my own immaturity and innocent
conscience. He would say my intention is to be the "good boy" taking care
of mother. Guilt as charged.
Dan
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