Back to the issue of alcoholism for a moment; I recently saw the following constellation at a workshop facilitated by Stephan Hausner:
A woman had done a constellation the previous day regarding depression and dissatisfaction in her work of facilitating workshops on leadership and change. Her father had died of esophageal cancer due to alcoholism. Resolution had to do with honoring father and what bonds him to his family, and turning from him to her work. Stephan suggested she place a photo of him in her office for a while, and when depression comes, to allow herself to have a father. The next day after lunch, she raised her hand emphatically when Stephan opened the floor to those who wanted to work. Here is how it went:
Woman: I want to work now on the issue of my alcoholism.
Stephan: You? Again? You want to solve it? Really? Then in the future, you only drink out of one glass and on this glass you put a photo of your dad. And before you take each sip, you look in the eyes of your dad, and then, you enjoy...It needs a little bit of discipline, but it helps.
Woman: Nods, and quietly says "Thank you."
all the best, sheila
Sheila Saunders, RN, MFT Systemic Family Solutions sheila@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx www.systemicfamilysolutions.com Great Smokies Medical Center of Asheville 1312 Patton Ave. Asheville, NC. 28806 828-273-5015