Thanks Vinay!
Just my perspective: All modalities have been misused. Sometimes objectively,
sometimes it really is just our opinion. I’ve seen Hellinger do things that I
found completely unethical that others thought were magical. ;-)
Having said that, 1) what we think doesn’t matter too much to this women—it
sounds like you did a lovely piece of work with her, and it’s her experience
that matters—and 2) it doesn’t sound like it was very good work.
Finally, I just pray, I hope I am not judged only by the worst constellation
facilitation I’ve done. ;-)
Peace, L
The Rev. Leslie Nipps
NLP & Family Constellations Practitioner
“Trust as a Way of Life…”
www.leslienipps.com
Co-Director, 2015 North American Systemic Constellations Conference in San
Diego on November 12-15.
Visit ConstellateUs.com/conference2015 for more information
On Oct 11, 2015, at 3:51 PM, 'Cristina Casanova' krsna-l@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I think that excellence in facilitation requires that one’s inner work has been
done well. Otherwise, we constellate with blind spots, projections, and
ego…..Cristina
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Questionable practices
Delicate matter
Hi folks. Normally if I hear of someone else’s constellation work, even if its
a different style, I will simply accept that everyone does it differently, and,
in the end, people are generally benefited.
But at a recent workshop, I had a very troubling experience.
A woman attended, who had recently been to another constellation workshop with
a well known facilitator. She had brought forward an issue about having
children. The facilitator had worked with her at the end of the day…done a very
short constellation, had thrown together a great many (possible) influences -
some family relatives, some events in the family, some social issues, some
historical cultural issues, and then - at the end of what the client reported
as a chaotic and messy process - declared to the client that she would never
have children, and she should just adjust her life to that fact.
Now, I wasnt there, so dont know exactly what happened. But the client
concerned is experienced in workshops, very well educated, and a stable kind of
a person. I doubt that she overly exaggerated the events. They left her quite
shaken, confused, and feeling disempowered. She also felt despairing about
having a child.
I did not do constellation work with her, but worked in a Gestalt fashion, in
as practical and grounded way as I could, including supporting her to make up
her own mind about having a child. She had not been able to conceive for a
while, so I suggested some fertility tests, which she had not done yet.
The previous practitioner's work left me somewhat concerned that the
constellation process may have been abused. I am wondering what others think?
Vinay
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