There are some old sayings I’ve found to be true that we learn a lot about our
clients when things go smoothly
and even more about ourselves when they don’t….and being a good cook is knowing
what
to do when you screw up….thanks for sharing this challenging situation. There
is never a school solution for these
sort of things that you could take a break and google. Sounds like you trusted
the field and yourself and it worked out.
Cheers
Harrison Snow
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From: Steve Vinay Gunther spirited@xxxxxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk]
Sent: Sunday, October 11, 2015 6:26 PM
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Questionable practices
Delicate matter
Hi folks. Normally if I hear of someone else’s constellation work, even if its
a different style, I will simply accept that everyone does it differently, and,
in the end, people are generally benefited.
But at a recent workshop, I had a very troubling experience.
A woman attended, who had recently been to another constellation workshop with
a well known facilitator. She had brought forward an issue about having
children. The facilitator had worked with her at the end of the day…done a very
short constellation, had thrown together a great many (possible) influences -
some family relatives, some events in the family, some social issues, some
historical cultural issues, and then - at the end of what the client reported
as a chaotic and messy process - declared to the client that she would never
have children, and she should just adjust her life to that fact.
Now, I wasnt there, so dont know exactly what happened. But the client
concerned is experienced in workshops, very well educated, and a stable kind of
a person. I doubt that she overly exaggerated the events. They left her quite
shaken, confused, and feeling disempowered. She also felt despairing about
having a child.
I did not do constellation work with her, but worked in a Gestalt fashion, in
as practical and grounded way as I could, including supporting her to make up
her own mind about having a child. She had not been able to conceive for a
while, so I suggested some fertility tests, which she had not done yet.
The previous practitioner's work left me somewhat concerned that the
constellation process may have been abused. I am wondering what others think?
Vinay
