What would be interesting for me to understand is what could be done as
repair in this situation. From what I read there was something left in the
client: either retraumatization (shaking & confusion).or what Mikhail
Burnyashev calls a 'Trojan horse' (the belief of not being able to
conceive).
Probably condemning another practitioner who made some poor choices would
not be conducive to repairing anything though :) Might set up the
practitioner, client & conception to investigate.
Thank you for sharing.
Heiki Eesmaa
On Oct 12, 2015 1:26 AM, "Steve Vinay Gunther spirited@xxxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk]" <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Delicate matter
Hi folks. Normally if I hear of someone else’s constellation work, even if
its a different style, I will simply accept that everyone does it
differently, and, in the end, people are generally benefited.
But at a recent workshop, I had a very troubling experience.
A woman attended, who had recently been to another constellation workshop
with a well known facilitator. She had brought forward an issue about
having children. The facilitator had worked with her at the end of the
day…done a very short constellation, had thrown together a great many
(possible) influences - some family relatives, some events in the family,
some social issues, some historical cultural issues, and then - at the end
of what the client reported as a chaotic and messy process - declared to
the client that she would never have children, and she should just adjust
her life to that fact.
Now, I wasnt there, so dont know exactly what happened. But the client
concerned is experienced in workshops, very well educated, and a stable
kind of a person. I doubt that she overly exaggerated the events. They left
her quite shaken, confused, and feeling disempowered. She also felt
despairing about having a child.
I did not do constellation work with her, but worked in a Gestalt fashion,
in as practical and grounded way as I could, including supporting her to
make up her own mind about having a child. She had not been able to
conceive for a while, so I suggested some fertility tests, which she had
not done yet.
The previous practitioner's work left me somewhat concerned that the
constellation process may have been abused. I am wondering what others
think?
Vinay
