This is beautiful, Dan.
Thank you.
Ursula
Am 24.05.2013 um 21:54 schrieb "Dan Booth Cohen, PhD" <danboothcohen@xxxxxxxxx>:
Dear Anni -
I have worked with a client who has Sami ancestry and some of the same
issues you described below. In our sessions, I accompany her on her journey
of dissociation. We imagine ourselves to be holding hands and lifting into
the blue sky above her body below. There we encounter a female mother
figure, who I have taken to calling Mary. We also come into contact with the
history of atrocities against children. Although we are working at a
distance, we see the same images. They involve persecution against Samis as
well as images from other branches of her lineage.
What is healing in these Constellations is we are able to give form and
context to the energy, impulses and emotions that circulate in her ordinary
body. Also that she is making these journeys with another person who is
willing to enter the inner world of her torment without fear or judgment.
After these journeys, we reunite with her ordinary body on the earth. She
has found that the distress that has defined her for more than 10 years is
gradually easing.
Dan
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Re: systemic understanding of child pornography
Each word expressed here is so fruitful. I hope even more of us say at least
one thing. The fear, the tears, the love, the sadness and joy. All are just
aspects of love. Each one who has read even one sentence is part of a
healing movement. Sharing our thoughts can only bring more light, more
awareness, more healing, more insight.
Desacralization. The making of something sacred into something unsacred.
This term mystifies me. What in life that exists is not held in the sacred?
If one says that a child is made unsacred to me this is an untruth. Whether
a child is sexualized or not does not take away from the sacredness of that
child. I wonder if this is a cultural unseen attitude that is a result of
the idea of sin colouring the person. Perhaps we might even say that sin
colours the perpetrator but how is it to be explained that this colours the
child? I ask myself this many times. I see it socially and have not come to
terms with why there is this attitude that is judgemental in nature.
For me, I see all involved in this complex dynamic as through the eyes of
the sacred. Through the eyes of love that bring all to one.
There is only the we.
To speak of this sacredness, I can only see it through my own eyes. To see
it from another perspective is less than. As Anutosh alluded to, I had been
raped as an infant. Several times by several people including my mother. So
for me, the saying that one becomes desacralized by sexual abuse seems to be
both humiliating and shaming. The other thing that I want to share is that
during one of these rapes at age 16 months, I fully dissociated from the
experience. I was lifted into the blue sky above the early summer grasses
and leafed trees into the arms of a female mother figure who held me and
comforted me as I watched myself on the ground being orally raped. The
experience was sacred and healing as much as it was painful and
traumatizing. These two contradictions played out simultaneously. The horror
and the sacred all at once.
I see all being held in the sacred, from the perpetrator to the victim. We
are one. We all come to this same place that is the loving embrace of that
which is the sacred.
The other thing I shall share here that has just happened exactly as I have
shared the child pornography thoughts and some of my own experience is that
the past has come into my life in a very direct and unexpected way. As we
work in the now, which I always stress and keep as the only place we can
work, there seems again to be affects that are insightful and bring
awareness. Yesterday, I received pictures of artifacts that had been found
in a gravesite on our Mukkala family farm in Finland. These artifacts were
of a shaman gravesite where several persons had most likely committed
suicide as a result of the colonial and church pressures were persecuting
them. This grave was found in the early 20th century but the graves were
from about 1730 and my grandfather's grandmother was born there in 1787 so
not so long ago in constellation terms. The coincidence of this exposure,
this picture of shaman jewellery and of the past with the expression of bits
of my own story of child pornography at the same time and its roots was more
than unusual. Time is a mystery. We can only work in the now, but there are
things revealed in this now. My family kept the knowledge of being Saami.
the reindeer people of Lapland.a secret guarded with extreme measures. I
also shared this story last week on another page and so one must wonder how
these things come to light.
Anutosh, you mentioned that your friend had many places to keep these
memories as did/do I. Those of you who may have been at the San Francisco
conference two years ago may have noted that I did some work on how the
dissociative identity exists as a constellation piece. I hope to do some
more `research' and do a complete constellation of the multiple
personalities I have and how they manifest. I plan to set up my own
personalities as a blind constellation to see if it can offer any insight
into how we might develop constellation work to bring awareness to those who
have dissociative aspects to themselves. I find that many persons I work
with have dissociative aspects even though they are not fully manifesting
dissociative identity disorder. When I do this, I will obviously make it
available. These things all take time. The time that is right is not quite
yet.
Again I write from the landscape that is love. Love sees all. All that is
held in love is sacred.
Always there are hugs, Anni
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