Elmar,
Extreme trauma can shut our body onto an off mode. You mention massage. The
body is disconnected. I see this in severe trauma. Also, she expresses anger
which is like an on switch for a part of her that she must find terrifying.
Perhaps her need is for human connection.
As some I have suggested, I like the idea of simply sitting as a friend. Many
people with this kind of trauma have no friends. I do not know about her..
Loyalty to the ethics of psychology can be a tricky business here. Can one sit
in pure friendship with a client? I do not know.
To respect her exactly as she is without any desire on one’s part to change
anything at all, especially her parents, is a gift of integrity. She has
probably used tools in her psyche that most humans don’t even know exist. She
is brilliant. To survive such situations takes incredible inner means. I admire
her exactly as she is.
I am grateful for this conversation. Thank you for bringing some light to fall
on us all. Kindest regards, Anni Mukkala-Stinn, Edmonton
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On Oct 8, 2020, at 4:52 PM, Elmar Dornberger elmar@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I am wondering if anyone has worked with a highly traumatizes person.
The trauma stems from early childhood abuse by a narcissistic mother and an
absent father. This person has no connections to feelings and sensations..
All her reactions are either emotional flooding or anger.
She has gone to a massage therapist for 3 years and would feel exactly the
same after every treatment as before.
She was her mother's slave, cooking, cleaning, caretaking, etc. She had no
friends and never developed a sense of herself. She is successful in business
working with numbers. What she wants is a family live. Anything I suggest or
do with her she rejects or claims she has done (everything) before and
nothing works.
I am not a beginner at this I am a Psychotherapist and a Constellation
Facilitator for over 20 years, and yet this is a new situation.
Yours,
Elmar
