I love what Anni Mukkala-Stinn is saying here. It's beautifully
supported in Johann Galtung's Searching for Peace, the Road to
TRANSCEND. It speaks of the deepest of what makes us human - that we can
be there for one another, without hierarchy, without role.
Thank you, Anni.
Barbara
On 10/11/2020 5:23 PM, anni mukkala-stinn annimukkala@xxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] wrote:
Elmar,
Extreme trauma can shut our body onto an off mode.. You mention massage. The body is disconnected. I see this in severe trauma. Also, she expresses anger which is like an on switch for a part of her that she must find terrifying. Perhaps her need is for human connection.
As some I have suggested, I like the idea of simply sitting as a friend. Many people with this kind of trauma have no friends. I do not know about her. Loyalty to the ethics of psychology can be a tricky business here. Can one sit in pure friendship with a client? I do not know..
To respect her exactly as she is without any desire on one’s part to change anything at all, especially her parents, is a gift of integrity. She has probably used tools in her psyche that most humans don’t even know exist. She is brilliant. To survive such situations takes incredible inner means. I admire her exactly as she is.
I am grateful for this conversation. Thank you for bringing some light to fall on us all. Kindest regards, Anni Mukkala-Stinn, Edmonton
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On Oct 8, 2020, at 4:52 PM, Elmar Dornberger elmar@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I am wondering if anyone has worked with a highly traumatizes person.
The trauma stems from early childhood abuse by a narcissistic mother and an absent father. This person has no connections to feelings and sensations. All her reactions are either emotional flooding or anger.
She has gone to a massage therapist for 3 years and would feel exactly the same after every treatment as before.
She was her mother's slave, cooking, cleaning, caretaking, etc. She had no friends and never developed a sense of herself. She is successful in business working with numbers. What she wants is a family live. Anything I suggest or do with her she rejects or claims she has done (everything) before and nothing works.
I am not a beginner at this I am a Psychotherapist and a Constellation Facilitator for over 20 years, and yet this is a new situation.
Yours,
Elmar
