Well I can only guess that you are from a school that is anti-Freudian but
isn't your comment to me just ever so judgmental since you appear to be
critical of my use of the word defended.
This is a man who is highly defended if you were originally trained in Freudian
analytic psychology as I was. But if you read through this entire thread
carefully you will see that I've also suggested that he's split off in the way
described by Franz Rupert. Furthermore as someone so aptly pointed out this is
a man who's highly dissociated.
So if you find fault with my choice of words then feel free to judge me. But
this same highly defended man trusts me sufficiently due to much hard word and
building of trust to share with me the unthinkable to say nothing of the
unmentionable --that he has feelings of lust for his grown daughter. So if I am
judging him I'm so sorry. It was my believe that I'm assisting him to heal his
transgenerational wounds from not just his own early life but the trauma he
carries of the ancestors.
Liz Jelinek, PhD
On Jun 8, 2017, at 7:40 PM, Robert Grant erebees@xxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Hello All,
Just a subtle point I find hard to resist making. "client has been too
defended to participate" somehow makes me feel uneasy. Is there a subtle
implication of blame or guilt? People often feel unsafe for many very good
reasons, too defended feels judgemental. Please correct me if I am mistaken.
Best wishes,
Robert
On Fri, Jun 9, 2017 at 1:44 AM, Dr Liz Jelinek lizjelinek@xxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Interesting thx. This is especially relevant because I've been convinced
from the earliest meeting with this man that his father, a college professor
at a major university, was gay and that the wife/mother was his cover. It's
never come up in a constellation as my client has been too defended to
participate.
Interesting. Thx
Liz Jelinek, PhD
